Saturday, September 18, 2010

What Do We Do During Funerals?

By Beverly Wells

Often, it is never easy to quickly accept the demise of someone you love. Nothing could replace the emptiness caused by the loss of an individual who is important in your life.

Even if death is an inevitable part of the cycle of our existence, we nonetheless experience a deep feeling of hurt if an individual who was very dear to us passes away. Still, in order for us to accept the death of a person very dear to us, we must face the matter head on. Furthermore, if the individual who passed away is part of our immediate family, we will be responsible for the preparations of the funeral service as a rite of saying our last farewell. During this moment of grief, you may not be able to make sound decisions, so the funeral service arrangement may be left in the efficient ministrations of a respected funeral home. All the same, you must be aware that there are still matters that you must personally supervise during the funeral service.

A funeral should reveal how the dead person lived his life and it must be planned out in an apt manner. There is a classic pattern which almost all funeral services stick to, and any change would usually depend on particular religious and cultural inclinations of the deceased and his or her family.

Visitation is the first phase of the process and it can roll over from a span of a few hours to days. Here, the deceased is remembered by his family and acquaintances. This is followed by the formal funeral service, which may be held inside the chapel of the mortuary, or any church that you choose, or even at any other location which was special to the deceased. However, you should make sure that you have hired a funeral coach, if the place of the funeral is at some distance.

After this service, the gatherers normally move to the cemetery to participate in the graveside service. This can be managed by a clergyman or any near relative of the deceased, based on the family's choice. Certain matters need to be focused on at this stage involving the person who will lead the service, if some favourite items of the deceased will be displayed, and the type of flowers used.

The last part of the service is the interment, and the manner this is done would depend on the choice of the family members, their religious leanings, cultural tradition or as directed by the deceased in a last will and testament. The deceased can be buried in family plots or in mausoleums, or be cremated and have their ashes scattered where they had intended.

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