Thursday, August 19, 2010

Passing Away, Anguish, And The Funeral: How Do We Recover From Loss?

By Rachelle Denver

To celebrate a departed loved one's life through funeral services is one move that allows you to face your grief. Cultures all over the globe - even the ancient ones - have means of paying tribute to the dead. The manner of giving tribute provides comfort, support, and solace for those who are left behind.

Grief is one's natural response to loss. It is the anguish that you experience when someone who or something that is part of your life, someone or something you love, is no longer there.

Some samples of situations that are reason for grief are the following:

- a falling out with a person you have are in a relationship with - you lost your job - you blew the big chance to follow your dream - a loved one is diagnosed with a serious disease - you are discovered to have a serious illness - the end of a marriage - loss of a cherished friendship - the pet that you had for a long time passed away - a loved one dies

The examples enumerated earlier can all cause a person to undergo a time of grieving. However, the most intense pain that we experience is when a person we love - such as a partner, a child, or a mother or father- dies. There is nothing that can ever be a substitute for their place in our feelings and memories.

Our entire lives, we may have made the people who died the center of our existence. And life would never be as it was when they are gone. We grieve for what has been taken from us. Nonetheless, it is in mourning that we pave the way to our own healing of the anguish that we felt with our beloved's demise.

All of us are entitled to air out our pain. Yet we must opt for non-destructive ways to channel grief, which can encourage the healing that we need after suffering from loss.

It is common presumption that grieving have to be done by crying our hearts out every time we recall our departed loved ones. Crying is not the only sign that we are sorrowful over the loss of a loved one. One can appear unemotional on the outside yet suffer from the pain of loss within.

Also, in opposition to the myth, grieving does not only encompass only a year. The duration of the grieving process will be different for one person compared with another. No one should be rushed and "get over" the grief that they are experiencing. Time heals all hurts and wounds.

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